Travelling is so helpful in getting over a breakup and it´s beneficial for all of us because it simply expands our horizons and helps us be more open-minded and tolerant which in turn will benefit our next romantic relationship – and the relationships we are currently in with friends, family and co-workers.
I truly believe we need to get out of our environment = energy field on a regular basis. Most peoples´ thoughts and feelings are created or at least fuelled by their environment. We use people, things and environments to reaffirm who we are and we all get so set in our ways. Travelling abroad on your own is an amazing opportunity to break with your patterns and habits, thoughts and choices, behaviours and emotions (= your program). Even more so if you get to speak another language because it impacts how you feel as well as your personality. After all, the Czech proverb does say, “Learn a new language and get a new soul.”
Travelling on your own is also a great opportunity to end the energetic cycle of a relationship that physically is already over. By unravelling from the habits, thoughts, beliefs and emotions you shared with your ex-partner and coming back to yourself. You may not have the energy for travelling in the first weeks after a breakup, but once you feel stronger I highly recommend it. When travelling you are constantly building new neural connections in the brain, while the ones linked to your ex get weaker – which is such an important part of healing and letting go.
The power of now
You get to be fully in the present moment because everything is new and you constantly need to figure out how to get from A to B, where to eat, where to have a coffee, where to buy, what to do and where to travel next. Things and challenges back home get less important and you are able to shift your perspective on them.
Another benefit is that you get to know yourself better and discover (or reinforce) the importance of relying on yourself and following your own heart and intuition. By being faced with decisions you need to make and fears you need to overcome you discover how much you are capable of. You also have a chance to experiment with aspects of your personality you don´t get to use that often back home.
The most important person in your life is YOU, so make sure you learn how to trust yourself and take decisions that are in your highest good. By following exclusively your own inner rhythm you are able to deeply relax your body and mind.
If you tend to worry what other people think of you this is a great opportunity to learn not to care and be whatever you want to be. The stakes are low because the odds are more than slim that you will meet people from your holiday back home.
Increased confidence – a natural by-product of travelling solo
Travelling on your own is one of the greatest confidence boosters I know – especially if you are introverted (like me). Every time you reach out to a stranger asking for directions or a restaurant recommendation, every time you sit in a restaurant or café by yourself and enjoying yourself, self-esteem circuits in your brain get activated and you actually grow your confidence. It´s a natural by-product of travelling – if you love where you are of course.
You will start appreciating your own company much more and enjoying the time you spend on your own. Being alone is a great way to connect with your higher self and enhance the relationship with yourself. As Oscar Wilde said: “I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.”
It´s also a wonderful opportunity to get clear on what you truly want for the next exciting chapter in your life.
Don´t use having no one to travel with as an excuse not to go and just start packing. You won’t regret it.